I want to talk about hell for a few minutes but I’m not really going to talk about hell. And since this isn’t about hell, it isn’t about writing an intellectual dissertation or providing a Scriptural defense of it. Hell is actually a prop to make my point. What this is really all about is a simple observation about how we talk about things and how people see us.
Recently, there has been a lot of discussion about hell because a well known preacher wrote a book that asked a lot of questions about it. What is hell like? Is there are literal hell? Is it eternal torment? Who will be there? How does one keep from going there? Even before the book was released and read, it was the hottest topic on the internet for a while. It created quite a stir and provoked a wide range of varied but pointed responses.
This was mostly in Christian circles. I don’t know a lot of people outside of the Christian community that give rip about entire sanctification, predestination, eternal security, irresistible grace, prevenient grace, or any of the atonement theories out there. I don’t know that most folks even really care about hell, but it is the thing we are talking about and our conversations are getting noticed.
Please don’t misunderstand me; I think theology is really important. The point I’m trying to make is that people are watching us.
In the movie Ocean’s Eleven (2001), Bellagio casino owner Terry Benedict (Andy Garcia) and his girlfriend Tess (Julia Roberts) are in the casino’s art gallery. As Tess leans in for a kiss, Terry moves away while pointing to a CCTV camera and says, “In my hotel, there’s always somebody watching.”
To the world at large we are all Christians. Even though we have more Christian denominations than Cold Stone has ice cream flavor combinations, most people just see us under one label, ‘Christian.’
What I see when we discuss topics, like hell, is a group of people that sound anything but friendly and kind. I think other people see it, too. It’s okay to have differing opinions when it comes to theology. It isn’t wrong. Besides, I don’t think we’ll ever agree on everything. Not even the apostles did that. But we can demonstrate a grace-filled, kind, and understanding attitude even in the midst of our differences. Jesus said that the world will know we are Christians by the love we have for each other. And yes, that applies even when we are talking about theology.
Discussions about theology are valuable and we should have them. In the process, we need to remember that in this world someone is always watching.
Are your disagreements marked by grace? Is it more important to be right than to love each other? Does it even matter?
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Are your disagreements marked by grace?
I try, but I really have to concentrate on it.
Is it more important to be right than to love each other?
Hard one to answer. I am not going to sit back and have someone call me a liar and disagree even correct points I may be making just to be graceful and loving. You just become a sad doormat at that point.
Does it even matter?
Yes and no. Depends on a lot of factors.
I have had disagreements with people in my past that I have sat back and taken the graceful, be nice, loving and Christian-y path and been left to be pooped on and used another day. Sometimes grace sucks so I use it with caution. I know that may make your uber-Christian commentors cringe, but at least it will start a conversation lol.
Penny, your comments about being graceful, nice, loving, and Christian-y got me thinking about our perceptions of how we discuss most matters with each other.
Does nice, graceful, et al mean that we will get the short end of the stick? I hope not.
That happens when our discussions are about being right instead of being understood.
What do you think?
You may not be talking about hell but many, as you say, are. I appreciate the encouragement to be *charitable* in our *discourse* (stole those words from Dr. Dan Boone).
When we, believers in Jesus, disagree on theological issues with judgmental and condemning tones we do demonstrate a perspective of hell that should be easily avoided by merely following the Jesus in Whom we believe.