Christmas Presence

Charlie Brown Christmas

A Charlie Brown Christmas, 1965

Death and Christmas don’t go together. They collide like to rams on a mountain side. You can hear the collision.

Depression and Christmas don’t go together. They are like two singers singing different songs in different keys. You can hear the dissonance.

Just because they don’t go together doesn’t mean they don’t go together.

They do. All the time.

Christmas is a difficult time for me for those two reasons. I have more reasons, but this will do for now.

There are families that will be spending their first Christmas without a loved one or they will be spending their last Christmas without a loved one.

There are families with children or parents that are depressed or wrestling with depression and the hap-happiest time of year is anything but for them. They joy and cheer that is on the radio or in people’s faces heighten their sense of loneliness and despair.

So what do  you get a person for Christmas that might be having a tough time?

Here are some ideas for the perfect Christmas “presence”.

  • Be with someone and listen. There is no fixing or assembly required.
  • Make a phone call to let them know you are thinking of them. It is encouraging to know you are not forgotten.
  • Write a thoughtful note. It is really good to hear how we’ve affected someone’s life.
  • Go where others fear to go. Nursing homes, cancer wards, and the rooms of the sick and dying are really depressing and people avoid these places because it is depressing. Hmmm, I wonder how the sick or dying person feels? Go and laugh and cry and celebrate and mourn. You can make a difference.

By doing these simple things you will demonstrate a couple of Christmas truths. First is that Christmas and hope go together like peanut butter and chocolate, unicorns and glitter, or milk and Oreos. Christmas is all about hope. It is all about finding out that we are not alone to fend for ourselves. It is all about finding out that we are not forgotten. It is about finding out that we are deeply and sincerely loved.

Second is that Christmas is all about presence. Christmas is a story about Immanuel, God With Us. That God came to be with us, to live like us, and show us the way to everlasting life. God spent time with us and, I think, wants us to spend time with others. And those others are, at least many of them, folks we might want to avoid. God didn’t avoid the sorrow and pain of this season. He dove in with both feet.

Merry Christmas and I hope you give lots of presence this year.

About these ads

About skinministries

Dave is an ordained elder and registered evangelist in the Church of the Nazarene. He was a Chief Warrant Officer 2 and flew helicopters for the Army National Guard. Dave is a 3rd degree black belt in Tae Kwon Do. He has worked with Jason Hanson, Luther Ellis, and Jeff Hartings to name a few, as a special trainer for the Detroit Lions. Dave also serves as a chaplain for the Oxford Police Department. He is a frequent contributor to The Citizen newspaper in Ortonville, Michigan. Dave is a graduate of Nazarene Bible College in 1998 and in 2008 earned a Masters degree in Spiritual Formation from Northwest Nazarene University. Dave and Ruth live in Oxford, Michigan and have been married for 27 years. Their daughter, Lindsay is married to Cody who is currently serving in Iraq. When he isn’t preaching or counseling, and the weather is right, you can look for him riding his Harley motorcycle. View all posts by skinministries

One response to “Christmas Presence

  • Lynn Yantz

    Thank you Pastor Dave for this beautifully written article that reminds us there are many who are mourning or feeling depressed. Your ideas are a great way to share God’s love with others.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s


Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 197 other followers

%d bloggers like this: